Religious congregations in the Catholic Church and the sanyasis (monks) in the Hindu and Buddhist religions systematically break their ties with their families. When I officially joined the Jesuits at the age of 18, I was allowed to visit my mother and close relatives after eight long years for three days only, at the age of 26, and that too because my mother was on the verge of death. I could not recognize my little nephews and nieces who had grown big after 8 years. I remember on the first night sitting at the side of my mother's hospital bed, half-asleep, talking to her in Gujarati after a long, tedious and exhausting journey from Ahmedabad to Pala in Kerala. From the bewildered looks on her face I knew there was something wrong. Most probably she wondered what happened to her dear, long separated, youngest child! I soon realized I was talking to her in a language she did not know. I for one was coming from a year of intense training in the Gujarati language in a language school, and further three months' resident practice in speaking Gujarati at Gujarat Vidyapeeth. Besides, during those 8 years I had used my mother tongue (Malayalam) very rarely as I was strongly discouraged from using it for the sake of mastering other languages for my studies. Things have changed since. Even though I do not advocate such a rigorous discipline now, it certainly helped me to acquire a broad world-view and a universal, all-inclusive perspective on humanity. I attribute my passion for acceptance of all human beings as they are and unity of humanity to such a rigorous training. We were trained to think in international settings that we are on this earth to serve the whole of humanity. This idea was drilled into our system.
I consider selfishness and self-centeredness, which we all have in varying degrees, as the original sin, if there is such a thing. Our selfishness creates distance and separation. Our large, inflated egos slowly destroy us. We easily get slighted by any little adverse comment. We all suffer from the fly-horse syndrome. This syndrome comes from the fly sitting on the nose of the horse thinking that it is the one, that is pulling the cart. All need to stop their self-promotion blowing their own loud trumpets. Looks like we have lost all modesty and moderation. Women need to stop bearing their bodies and displaying their endowments for commercial exploitation and advertizing. Men need to get real and stop chasing women for the ever-elusive sexual gratifications. Of course Albert Einstein's very simple explanation of relativity is still very relevant. He said: When you are courting a nice girl an hour seems like a second. When you sit on a red-hot cinder a second seems like an hour. That is relativity. Men and women need to realize their purpose in life, and spend their energy in self-realization the only lasting pleasure. We need to be generous in understanding. We need to be slow in taking offense and getting hurt. Misunderstanding takes place where the will to understand is slow, where the questioning others' motives and passing unfair judgments are plenty, and where there is little empathy and compassionate relating. When we look at others the way God looks at them there is very little chance for misunderstanding that leads to negative outcome.
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